Girls who don’t want to get married mostly end up marrying love

A close friend once asked me, and she said: “Honey, should girls marry love or reality? Marrying reality is nothing more than a few years less struggle. Then spend more than 10 years to regret it. But it’s far-fetched to say so. There are many friends who are married to reality. Not only do they gradually get used to the existence of each other in the life of necessities, but that habit has a slight taste of dependence, and they have acquired a kind of dependence in the long-term dependence. disease, there is no cure for it – late stage of lazy cancer.”
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She said that she recently met a boy who had a car, a house and savings, but she never saw him right.
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I said; “Since you don’t like him, why bother with him? Have you ever thought that the other half is the person who will accompany you through your life. If you don’t like him, it’s better to reject him directly, and find each other without delay. And you With the ability to make money, she always said that relying on others is worse than relying on oneself. Since she does not rely on the other party’s financial supplies, the result is naturally clear. Later I heard that the reason for her distress was all because of what her mother said.
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“There is nothing like having a home of your own, isn’t it? Relationships can be cultivated slowly. In our era, it was basically introduced by relatives and friends, and it was a matter of course when we met and walked through the scene. So much hypocrisy, it’s not surprising. Even my previous generation was still ordered by my parents. Is love useful? Poor couples are always sad. Even if the love between you is strong enough to be steadfast, it will eventually be defeated by reality. It’s hard for a clever woman to cook without rice. You see your cousin traveling all over the world with her other half, don’t you feel jealous?” Parents, most of them like to educate their children in this way. Parents are not personal experiencers of your emotional experience, so the views they sometimes throw out are intuitive and rational but arbitrary and one-sided. “If you don’t listen to the old man’s words, you will suffer in front of your eyes.” However, when it comes to love, I always learn from what I think is right, and I don’t absorb everything.
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So what if you have a room? The house can’t give me such a sense of security. In the real world, I am very rational, and I know what I want. However, when I meet someone I like, I am very emotional. Marriage without love as a spiritual bond feels dull to me. Human life is only more than 30,000 days, and life is too short to be regretted.
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If you are a “Saint Seiya”, maybe even if your family members know that you don’t belong to him, they will still force you to match, just because they seem to be a good person, and they are afraid that you will miss him “what if you can’t find him”. But I want to persuade my uncles and aunts: “The old saying is good, twisted melons are not sweet.” I want to say to those girls who are like best friends who are constantly distressed: “You have the right to pursue happiness and the right to choose. It is only in your own hands. Other people’s words can only be used as a reference. If you don’t think it is right, just let him pass by like a cloud of smoke. Others are not you, so they won’t have your empathy. Words from people other than the person involved It’s somewhat one-sided.”
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Speaking of this, I have reached a tacit agreement with that friend’s point of view. Good feelings, you are mine, and I am yours. And we are all our own. Emotion lies in communication, and the first prerequisite for communication is to have something to talk about. You may have different hobbies, but respect and acceptance are enough. Whether the communication between you can go from shallow to deep, and whether it is nutritious. And to achieve unity to some extent, this is the key. People with different perspectives live under the same roof, and you have different judgments on your surroundings. No matter how good your relationship is, it will be in vain. What’s more, you don’t have a common emotional experience. A good relationship is mutual trust and the determination to make progress together and share weal and woe. It is not an empty nest that can hide from the rain, and there is no communication between hearts. Even if you lose to reality in the end, imagine that when you face a person who has nothing to talk about every day, the embarrassment is called helplessness.
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A place with warmth is called a home, and a place without warmth is called a residence. To put it bluntly, after you leave, you won’t even be able to take away every brick and tile in this residence, and you still talk to me about what you once owned.
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Are you marrying for love, or for a temporary residence? For those who love each other, marriage is a sacred temple, but for those who do not love, it is called a grave.
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2. I love you, and love the way I am when I’m with you
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I once saw such a case on the Internet. After reading it through, I was deeply impressed by the love between the hero and heroine. This is a pair of lovers. When they got married, they didn’t have a car or a house. They were stingy and didn’t even have a ceremony or blessings from relatives and friends. However, the girl did not regret it. She said: “When I was young, I didn’t understand love. I just wanted to find someone who was good to me. He was good to me, so I married.
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“During the period when they first fell in love, they lived in cheap rented houses, cramped bathrooms, and earned meager wages. They lived a miserable life. She said: “We all spent the most difficult days together. “Ten years of marriage, her career is stable, and her husband’s career is also thriving. The two not only bought a house in the urban area, but the man was recognized by the woman’s family. In fact, happiness has never come easily. The two have been together for more than ten years. I have long lived the lives of two people as one.
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The woman said: “Do it yourself and have enough food and clothing.” The man said: “It doesn’t matter how hard or tired you are for the one you love. Every day I drag my tired body and watch her standing in the kitchen with an apron on and cooking dinner with a smile on her face. I feel that I am the happiest person in the world.” Men often feel that they owe their wives a ceremony, so they secretly arrange a belated marriage proposal ceremony on the tenth anniversary.
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She never thought that this surprise would be so sudden. Although this day was within her expectation, she was still completely moved in the end. However, good things just passed. Bad things followed one after another. Not long after her marriage, she experienced a serious car accident, which caused her fragmentary amnesia that was permanent. Including her parents, friends, these familiar faces were completely deleted from her world one by one. As long as she wakes up in those days, she keeps asking people around her for help. The instinctive emotional dependence of “I want to find my husband” is actually a kind of deep love.
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This deep love makes me forget the world, but I can’t forget you. You see, even if I forget one or two things about us, I still trust you absolutely. He said: “As long as she can wake up, forget it and forget it. No matter what she becomes, I still love her. Big deal, let’s start again, starting with what my name is.
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As long as she is still alive, we still have a lot of time enough for us to love again. “After that, he stayed with her in the hospital day and night. During this period, his friends had no idea of persuading him to look for her again. He said fiercely: “If you say such things again, break up the relationship. There are thousands of good girls in the world, but this one is the only one I love. ”
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A good love is generally like this. No matter what you become, I will accept it and still love you. Husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster strikes. In the face of good love, this theorem does not work.
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3. Gillian’s marriage: Thank you for showing up, I thought I would never meet you
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Good love will be late, but it will never be absent. In front of people who don’t love you, I understand the hardships of life and learn to run against the wind and rain. In front of the person who loves you, you understand the true meaning of love. Maybe love is when someone has hurt you deeply and just laughed it off. So, you are disappointed, you feel as if the whole family has abandoned you, and you feel that your existence itself is a big joke. But until another person appears, he uses his actions to tell you that he loves you, he doesn’t care what kind of past you have, even if you are bad, he just loves the worst girl standing in front of him at this moment. You don’t have to be nice, I love you.
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If it is said that life has brought you all kinds of debts, then please believe that there is always someone who will make up for all the debts that life has brought you.
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Even if the world is barren, believe that there is always someone who will be your believer. No matter you are good or bad, no matter who you are, you are my belief.
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Gillian got married, and she was radiant in a tube top wedding dress. On that day, she was the most beautiful woman in the world. She finally verified the sentence in her song: In the end, changing the queen and becoming a bride are all ideals.
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Thinking of the song “The Next Stop” that Gillian once sang, there is a sentence in it that fits her view of love very well: “In fact, the biggest ideal in my heart is to go home with him and sing for him.”
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Gillian once said that she wanted to find a handsome man to marry. After the pornographic incident, she began to ignore her looks. Gillian once cried bitterly and said that no one will marry me anymore. During that time, there were still people who liked her and slowly fell in love with her. It’s just that no one has ever thought of giving that girl who looks strong but is always sensitive and hurt in her heart a future.
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For a girl who believes in love: I can accept your imperfections, and I can accept giving you half of the only bread I have. But what I am most afraid of is no matter how much I give, how I give. None of them can impress you. The future you describe is beautiful, but there is only one more me.
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Time goes round and round, from 27 to 37, the best golden age of a woman has passed, if it is a girl who is not determined, maybe she will not wait long ago, but this person is Gillian, I have seen an episode of Gillian In an exclusive interview, when she was in her 30s, when she talked about that spurned love, her eye circles would still be red. The meaning of tears may be more that I can’t let go.
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I gave you a heart, a heart of pure and sincere love for you. After you left, I found my heart was empty. It seems something is missing.
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In May of this year, the news of Gillian’s marriage was once on the top searches. Gillian has found a handsome man who has no complicated love history and doesn’t care about her past. I just want to spend my whole life with her. He gave her a romantic wedding and made her the most beautiful bride as she wished. At the wedding, when she said in her speech: “It’s hard to get to this day…”, Gillian cried a lot, but it wasn’t Gillian who shed tears first, but the man who loved her very much.
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He smiled and told her, it’s great to marry you. I finally waited for you, but luckily I didn’t give up.
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What is love? Love is meeting the right person at the right time, but at the wrong time, the person you love is just a passing cloud before your eyes. Fortunately, you are still willing to believe in love even if you are bruised and bruised.
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4. A good love is that you can be yourself, simple and beautiful
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I think whether a relationship is good or not can be reflected in girls. A girl is confident, humorous, and behaves gracefully, then there must be someone behind her who is willing to spoil her and love her. This person uses her own actions to protect her fragile self-esteem. That’s why she won’t be timid and hesitant when she speaks and does things, and she won’t worry about gains and losses like a crazy person for one thing.
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In fact, good love in the world is like this. Right or wrong is not important. As long as there is love, there will be favoritism. Love gives you a fulcrum, allowing you to face this imperfect world with tolerance and gentleness.
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Just like Zhang Xiaoxian said: When you want to wait for the right person, you may not know what the right person is. Only when that person appears, you will know that he should be the right person. Appearing in life is also to satisfy you and let you improve yourself.
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Most girls who marry love learn to dedicate love while accepting love. They know how to give and tolerate, and put themselves in the shoes of the other half to prepare for a rainy day. They often get rid of their own petty temper and become gentle, calm and approachable. If you find a woman scolding the street like a shrew, even a trivial matter will be haggled over every penny. I thought maybe she wasn’t doing well enough.
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Maybe I will meet you later, whether you are twenty or thirty, but I still firmly believe that the person who loves me, understands me, and cherishes me will cross the sea of people just to give me a harbor of love. Before that, all you have to do is to be kind to yourself, let yourself try to be independent, have an independent personality that does not depend on others, promise me, okay?
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Xin Ruo Yuxi: Do you still believe in love? But, as always, I believed and waited.