Gaining the trust of others is especially important for successful relationships

Gaining the trust of others is especially important for successful relationships. Although it is common to lose the trust of others, as long as you are willing to put in the effort and prepare well, you can build the trust of others. If your relationship is full of doubt and fear, please don’t be indifferent, don’t let it go so bad, make up your mind to rebuild trust, so that your relationship with everyone can be improved.

you have to be reliable
Walk the talk. Perhaps the most important thing in building a foundation of mutual trust is to walk the talk. Even if it is a small matter, if you don’t do it or fail to do it, it will be a crack in your integrity. Because the embankment of a thousand miles is destroyed by ant nests.

Honor all promises. People trust you when they trust you to be reliable. If your promise cannot be fulfilled, explain the reason clearly to the other party face to face. To clean up the mess – you can’t give the other party a guarantee as compensation.

Don’t take promises lightly. No matter how trivial it is, know that the other person values it more than you. If you don’t deliver, the other party will be very disappointed. Recognize this before you give up trying.

be honest
be honest. Sounds easy, right? In fact, you said that in order to protect your friends, your lover, or your parents, your white lies are amazing. But when the actual situation is not so happy, if you can also tell the truth, you are more reliable.

honestly. When you really want to lie to someone, whether it’s to take care of his feelings or not to see the other person have an unpleasant reaction, there is a way: focus on one good thing in the other person. You value this advantage first, rather than exaggerating your bad news, so as to determine whether you should tell him or not. Focus on what he did right and why he cares about it. This paves the way, knowing that you are not judging a person from any preset results. Besides that, you have to be willing to listen.

Example: If you need to tell a friend that she wasted a lot of your time, explain what is wrong with her in a friendly, objective and not judgmental way. But at the same time, you must also think about his ability and value to you. If you can, tell the other party how to make up (not strongly suggest anything; even if you can give advice, don’t) and then concentrate on listening to what she has to say.
Say something like: “XXX, it looks like you and XX are in some trouble. He said he never wants to see you again. I heard him say that…I can see he doesn’t like it when you do it [just as it is] Man, don’t even have a single white lie], what he said will not change my opinion of you, you are still my best friend, you are talented and bright, you have a bright future. You deserve real acceptance from others, I think he A little uneasy in your presence. Please tell me how you feel, I totally understand.”
share your feelings. People who don’t share when they’re not in trouble can make others feel cold and alienated. You find it easy (for you) to paraphrase someone else’s difficulties, and what you say lacks empathy and understanding. People will think that you take other people’s troubles as your own happiness. We are all emotional and rational beings, and our lives must be balanced, not biased.

to be open
Be proactive about providing information. When the odds are slim, don’t be greedy. Be willing to provide information to your audience and prove that you have nothing to hold back. To understand this more clearly, read on for the following example:

An example of a loss of trust: When someone asks you, “How was your meeting with the lawyer?” you say, “It was good.”
An example of building trust’: When someone asks you, “How was the meeting with the lawyer?” You say “It was good. Been working all day, sorting out all the papers, and almost missed the deadline. But both parties signed , the other party said they would send an email tomorrow.”

In the latter example, you didn’t say anything else – the meeting was fine – but you provided more information, which proves that you have nothing to hide.
Don’t overlook important details. A big reason for not ignoring important details is that it’s hard to make up for a string of omissions. People will notice your contradictions and take you for a liar. Even if you just have a small “negligence”! You tell people what you need to know and what you want to know. If the information you provide is credible, the other party will trust you.

Tell each other your secrets. You can’t be forced to confide your most private feelings and secrets in order for others to trust you. The key to being both secure and private is being able to tell the difference between what you want to share and what only you know.

For example: You say “I don’t want to tell you how I feel with my ex-wife yet, you don’t have to worry, I promise.” This is to give the other party a chance to prove his understanding and patience for you. The most important thing is that you give the other party sense of security. Even if they want to know what’s going on, trust you to tell them. If you pretend you don’t have a secret at all, you will inadvertently give it away, which will only make the other person suspicious.
Don’t hide the truth. “Telling the truth” means not hiding the truth. Sometimes, in order to protect yourself, it seems that some “distortion” of the truth is harmless, but beautifying your motives is not much better than lying, and it also destroys trust.

For example: A person refuses to admit why he didn’t come to the weekend party, but says that he lost his credit card. It’s harmless to say so, but the truth may come out (and the listener may find out you’re lying), and it destroys trust. So be honest at all costs.

Expect each other to be open. Trust others to tell you the truth. Much of the lack of trust comes from what people already know, as well as what they don’t know. Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “Is that all?” or “Is there anything else I need to know?” or “I don’t think you have anything to say. I need to know everything that’s bothering you to help you.” Just Be careful not to come across as forceful; give the other person space to think about what will happen if they don’t open up to you.

keep confident

Keep what you know secret. Put an end to rumors, don’t talk nonsense about other people’s affairs, and talk less. You can only trust people who are careful in their words and deeds and those who don’t talk much, and they continue to believe in you. If you say it, the result is that your bestie doesn’t trust you anymore.

Sometimes, you slip up due to stress and exhaustion or without thinking about it. At this time, you have to admit the mistake to the person concerned immediately, and the two parties will work together to make up for the bad consequences, instead of alienating each other.
If you lied, admit it. Sometimes it feels necessary to lie, and it is best to admit it right away and explain why. If caught red-handed, don’t deny it, it’s wrong on top of wrong.

let go of self-esteem
Express loyalty. This can show your ability to protect others. Be consistent in the presence and absence of others, and most importantly when they are not in your presence. When the other person knows that you are loyal to him, trust is unbreakable.

show ability. Gain the respect and affirmation of others by demonstrating adequate interpersonal and/or professional skills. Social skills and a good attitude can be learned, even if you have social phobia and other related problems. Make an effort to practice basic social skills, starting with people you trust, so that people who don’t know you well will trust you even more.

Demonstrate good moral standards. In relationships, this is so important. The other party must have confidence in you and know that you will never betray them, nor will you betray them behind your back. You must be faithful.

Remain objective when you are stuck. Make a conclusion after you know the facts.

Your aim is to be objective and fair. When making decisions or actions, consider whether others understand that your decisions and choices are objective and fair enough.

Don’t have double standards. Be consistent in your words and deeds. Integrity manifests itself in corresponding behaviour. It also determines your ability and good judgment in dealing with things.

Take responsibility for what you are responsible for – don’t pass the buck. If you are a leader, know that the leader takes the blame for the team, don’t let others be the scapegoat; it takes a strong character, and don’t miss out on opportunities to grow.
Lying is also self-deception. You may convince yourself that what you say and do is honest, and what is objectively true may seem untrue. The facts seen with “your” eyes may not necessarily be seen by others, whether it is about things or words. If people find out that what you do or say is wrong, you lose trust.
If you don’t trust people, understand why. Find the reason for distrust, see if you can ask the other person to admit a lie or cover-up, be straightforward and gentle, and then give up trust in them completely. Sometimes, the other person can trust you knowing that you can see through their tricks and be willing to help, so they take off the mask and show their true self.